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Hi Wild

it seems that you are having technical difficulties, are you behind a firewall by any chance?. If when you next try to access the Chat Room you have troubles again click the Help button on the top right of the screen and it will talk you through common issues and help you solve the trouble you're having

hope this helps, if not drop me a line at breakupsurvival@hotmail.com and we'll both have a go at sorting it

Willow

Hi Andy

sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. Right, I got in touch with Spread and he e-mailed me with a document outlining his thoughts and feelings on why No Contact is so important. I've put the document in the Documents folder of the group for now as I haven't had time yet to make a static page but I will probably convert it to a Gold Post or similar.

hope this helps, sorry for the delay

Willow

how come the chat line is not up and running ,is thee any thing special i have to do to access it , ty 4 your time , and keep up the great site

Hi Andy, good idea, I'll pull Spread into this and see if we can think of what's best.

First let me say how invaluable this site has been for me and the emotional help of so many others. This site could be used in a study of the emotional effects of breaking up and could cover a wide variety of break up situations.

A common thread I have noticed that appears to be common amongst those here is the concept and benefits of No Contact. We all go through that phase of understanding intellectually that No Contact is best but emotionally we get caught up and it makes the decisions harder. SpreadBlamo has been posting some excellent advice on how to deal with the various scenarios and its almost down to a science. Since we keep repeating similar pieces of advice, I would like to suggest we work on a No Contact briefing. The brief would describe in detail, what to expect from your ex and from yourself, how to handle specific situations (like giving back his/her stuff, birthdays, family crisis, children, etc) and what benefits you can expect from NC. Spread would be a great person to start this if she doesn't mind. We could circulate it around to a few of us that have successfully been through No Contact situtions (Rage for instance) and go from there. It would give everyone a resource to go to when questoins arise.

Hi Judith

sorry about the confusion. When browsing the entries in the My Story section you need to click on the image of the magnifying glass to the left of the members name (see image below), not the members name itself. I've decided to make a page explaining all this in the My Story area as this isn't the first time a member has been confused about it so it's not just you :-) Hope this helps.

Willowsong

Help! I went into My Story and started writing my story of what happened. Now I can't find it to finish. All that is on there is my profile. I looked at others, and it's just their profile. Did I misunderstand what My Story is about? I spent an hour writing out my story and now I can't find it. Is it gone? I'm confused!

Thanks for any help you can give me.

unfortunately those types of pages, such as this feature for instance, are only viewable by people signed into the group with a Net passport, and is something only MSN have control over.

Please consider making the suicide-help link available to everyone not just members but none members as well.

Hi mari-bubba. 've added a new IM Buddies list for people to add their ID's too and to browse for other members info. Hope this helps

Hi Mari

thank you for that. Yes, the site has evolved beyond what I ever thought I'd be able to handle, which isn't much actually I like to think that although we're a lot bigger and things move so fast that we still become that warm, supportive and restorative corner of the WWW for breakupees worldwide. I just wish I had more time to devote to it, but babies have a habit of wanting attention darn it.

Take care

Willow

Thank you! All of you who contributed to the Better Off Because.......

Finding myself alone on what would have been my third wedding anniversary, I can't tell you just how much all of your comments lifted me and made me realize - I'm not so alone after all!! Not only did I realize I'm not alone - but that I know I tried absolutely everything to make my marriage work and I can hold my head up and say - It truly wasn't me! I AM BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM! I know the grass is only greener for those of us whose grass turned blue first! The cream always rises to the top! Thanks All! Susan

Hi Willow...I was wondering about a way to start a buddy list...like a way to know when your friends or the people you enjoy most are online. I'm not sure that's possible, but it'd be a great feature...cuz for some reason, no one is ever in chat and we have to play tag through posts! Even so, (forgive me, I'm thinking aloud) I'm not sure having that lost will help because how would we be able to contact them..not like this is a instant messaging site...anyway, food for thought!

Hi Mee

thanks for your question. The problem you are having is something I had trouble with too. About a year ago MSN gave users of their groups the option to be known by the same nickname across all of the groups they belong to. One of the problems with this is that now members who have separate names for each membership can't alter their profile for each specific group, I know, I tried to and that's the reason I went for a new nick across all my groups. A pain isn't it :-(

Maybe a My Profile page is the way to go?

Willow

thanks for your question. I'm not sure how much exact text is allowed for an entry on the My Story section but I do have a suggestion that should make it easier. Write out your story in MS WordPad or similar (not MS Word as it will be littered with annoying formatting commands after posting) Then save it. Then copy and paste as much as it will allow you to post into the creating window in the My Story area. Then add another page copying and pasting the rest in. It might be helpful to other readers if you number each chapter at the top of each so they get read in the right order? A bit fiddly but the simplest solution i think. Any good?

Thank you for your suggestion. I have now created a thread for people to list when they will be in the chat room, and have placed a link to this thread on the Chat Room intro page. Hope this helps

Any possibility of organizing a group chat session dated and timed?

hi willow, i like the site. just wanted to know how i can change my profile i didnt do one in the beginning and now i want to. when i go under edit profile it looks like i have to leave the group in order to make a new profile...so confused

I think it would be a nice idea to put up a birthday calender on the BUS. A lot of Xesseem to forget about us on our birthday, and we might feel a bit better if we get sum attention over here on the BUS.

And Angie, I really want to thank you for your beautiful posts, it helps me a lot, even when the post isnt ment for me.

Hi Willow, I haven't been here long, but I like this site already. I keep discovering new things in it, which is cool. Just wanted to say -Good job!

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